So.. I recently was actively finding babysitter/nanny as I have great overdue orders to complete and I can't drag anymore and the babysitter was to take care of liris for 8 hours daily for two weeks.Diann, found me a caregiver whom stays quite far from me..

The first day liris stayed 6hours in her care and she offered to take care of rislin too as she's very independent, and would maybe also help liris the cranky boy get used to being in a new environment..

Summary of liris characteristics
-cranky most of the times
-shouts and cry at the same time so is very unbearable for 99% of the people
-clingy
-needs to be held constantly

I guess that's all the above for his summary.. Moving on my story.. The second day which is today I brought them there a hour journey from my house for a 4hours care.she told me she could not continue caring for them as they cannot spare the time to keep carrying him and she has old injuries etc.

And while talking about these she keep psycho-ing me to give him formula so it would make the care giver life better. To be frank I was very angry when she went to " because you breastfeed and all he wants is you,you are traumatizing him by not giving him milk when he wants as he cries when you are not around".

Seriously that is not the reason why he is so clingy, he is so clingy is because I am his sole care giver all along. Can you imagine if you are a baby and been with mummy 24hrs for the past 10mths+.Have never left mummy, then suddenly you are at this new place with new person. Would you be frightened and want mummy?

Obviously you would right. And before even placing my son with her, or even know who my son will be placed with.I consulted a lactation consultant who has 20yrs+ experience telling me that during the 8hours he doesn't need milk feeds and he can drink once he is back to me and he will "take back the milk he needs".

Just feed him solids, juice and water when he's hungry will do. But there they are keep harping on the 8hours nutrients he will miss out on. Solids do give nutrients too plus she understand very little on breastfeeding and keep giving me "kind advises" to starting him on formula..

And they gave him the soy milk at the 4hrs he is with them but THANKGOD he rejected it, really regret passing them the soy milk to use as in case but they misuse it

As I'm pregnant my milk supply start to take a slight dip and even a slight disruption by him taking formula will kill my milk supply as he gets his milk from another source. They don't understand how hard I am working to keep up my supply during the first day the 6hours he's away , I pumped 4times and could only get about 40ml combined.

I was also not used to pumping too as it was a long time since I pumped maybe that's why.. I can't afford the time to pump only when he's away as he really needs me to sit beside him and he will keep pulling the tubings,pump etc.

I was really upset as, if you feel that you can't handle a cranky baby as I feel that this was the problem and he is not any normal person or even experienced mum can handle. He needs someone with a tremendous amount of patience.. Someone who can smile even though he cry for more than 30mins and it's very irritating and loud..

And the way she say as if I'm a very fussy mum I mean it isn't too much if I list all the allergies as he has alot of allergies and request food cannot have sauce. I really don't see how am I being fussy giving a 10mo food without sauce? Because she said something like it's hard to work around him as he has alot of allergies bla bla bla..

But my concern is I saw rislin doing a handsign which look like "tiak" the baby sign which she did on liris ,so really make me a bit suspicious!!

Something like this!






And this





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So once u flick the finger we will know what happens! The second pic is probably her thinking hey my finger can do this..

Ok shall end this longgg post for now


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